“I don’t even care anymore.”

A crisis of misalignment.

“What was any of it for?”

“None of it matters.”

“I don’t even care anymore.”

These are the phrases I hear from clients when they’ve reached a tipping point.

Prior to this moment, they were able to tolerate the people, places and circumstances of their lives which have now become completely intolerable.

They feel confused and lost.

They’ve worked diligently to create a life that has all the ingredients for happiness and success—a partner, a home, a child, a dog, a career, a car—yet they can’t shake the feeling of being utterly miserable.

What’s missing?

For years, they woke up every morning and poured their energy into this life. They found pockets of joy and love but nothing that sank through them to anchor that joy deep in the core of their being.

They carried on.

They had an intuitive sense that something had to change but couldn’t put their finger on exactly what to do to move the needle.

Instead they found temporary distractions that brought welcomed relief if only for a weekend. A vacation, a shopping spree, a new hobby, or even a return to old coping mechanisms—gambling, overspending, social media, alcohol, toxic relationships.

Until they reach the tipping point.

Each action (or inaction) has led them further and further away from what I call their highest self.

Their highest self is simply their true self. The version of them that was born into the world, untouched by life, expectation, social pressure, and limiting beliefs—an unavoidable consequence of being human.

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This tipping point has many labels.

In addiction recovery it is a ‘rock bottom,’ in trauma work, a ‘crisis,’ in manifestation, a ‘dark night of the soul.’

Here I am naming it a crisis of misalignment.

It’s not what we think of as a typical crisis. Sometimes it’s pretty uneventful. Yet, it has a precarious quality that warrants this label.

“A crisis is a severe, unstable, and dangerous period that represents a crucial turning point, either for better or worse, and can affect an individual, group, or society, requiring immediate attention or a decisive change in direction.”

Emphasis here on “a turning point, either for better or worse… requiring immediate attention or a decisive change in direction.” In other words, it’s a calling.

A calling to make a decision. Make a change. Or don’t.

One of my Substack readers pointed out, “when you have been out of alignment for so long you no longer know what alignment feels like.”

A great point.

How do you find your way back into alignment with your highest self?

First, you must understand that your highest self is the anchor. No matter how far you’ve strayed away from your path, your highest self is always anchoring you back to you (the true you).

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Imagine for a moment your highest self as a straight line from birth to death and you are tethered to the path of your highest self by a rope.

Every decision you make or action you take is either in alignment with this path or out of alignment. As life goes on you move toward and away from this path to varying degrees, cycling around it at all times and all decision points.

No matter what decisions you make in your life, your highest self and highest path securely anchor you on your journey.

However, the further you stray off your path, the greater the tension in the rope and the greater the tension you experience in your life.

Your higher self is pulling you (calling you) back in alignment.

The challenge then is to let go of resistance and reduce the tension.

Now imagine you make a choice to switch directions and low and behold you find a little bit of slack in the line.

Taking action comes with a little more ease. You begin to feel a bit of relief. That is the sign you’re coming back to your path. You’re coming back in alignment with your highest self.

Sounds nice, right?

But, it can’t be that easy or we’d all be living a life of true alignment.

You’re right!

It’s my belief that this is a life long journey. A journey that we’re all on. Finding our way back to our highest self, our path of least resistance, and our higher purpose.

I also believe we are meant to stray. To bump up against choices, experiences, and situations that are out of alignment from time to time. That the tension serves a purpose too.

Without this duality, we simply wouldn’t have any way of discerning what is truly in alignment and what isn’t.

So, if this metaphor resonates with you and you’ve found yourself out of alignment, experiencing heightened tension, and you’ve said to yourself, “I don’t even care anymore,” you’re not lost.

You’re simply gaining the insight, wisdom, and understanding of your own limits and boundaries—a lesson worth celebrating if you ask me!

And if I can leave you with one actionable insight–coming back into alignment begins with just one decision to do something different. Make a change. Follow the intuitive nudge you’ve been ignoring.

Take just one step in a different direction (any direction) and measure the slack in the rope.

Warmly,

Dallis

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